The Bridegroom

I finished up Every Woman’s Battle by Shannon Ethridge tonight, and towards the end of the book the author reveals a dream (rather a nightmare) that she had one night, which can be applied towards every believer (male or female) and I thought it needed to be shared.

A radiant bride greeted her guests with a brilliant smile as she entered the reception hall after the wedding ceremony. She gracefully moved and milled about the room, the train of her stunning white gown flowing along the floor behind her, her veil cascading down her button-adorned back.

She conversed with each guest one by one, taking the time to mingle and soak up the compliments. “You look absolutely lovely.” “Your dress is divine.” “I’ve never seen a more beautiful bride.” “What a stunning ceremony.” The lavish praises rang on and on. The bride couldn’t be more proud or more appreciative of the crowd’s adoration. She could have listened to them swoon over her all evening. As a matter of fact, she did.

But where was the groom? All the attention focused on the bride and never once did she call anyone’s attention to her husband. She didn’t even notice his absence at her side. Scanning the room, I searched for him, wondering, “Where could he be?”

I finally found him, but not where I expected him to be. The groom stood alone over in the corner of the room with his head down. As he stared at his ring, twisting the gold band that had just been placed on his finger by his bride, tears trickled down his cheeks and onto his hands. That is when I noticed the nails scars. The groom was Jesus.

He waited, but the bride never once turned her face toward her groom. She never held His hand. She never introduced the guests to Him. She operated independently of Him.

I awoke from my dream with a sick feeling in my stomach. “Lord, is this how I made you feel when I as looking for love in all the wrong places?” I wept at the thought of hurting Him so deeply.

Unfortunately, this dream illustrates exactly what is happening between God and millions of His people. He betroths Himself to us, we take His name (as “Christians”), and then we go about our lives looking for love attention, and affection from every source under the sun except from the Son of God, the Lover of our souls.

Oh, how Jesus longs for His own to acknowledge Him, to introduce Him to our friends, to withdraw to be alone with Him, to cling to Him for our identity, to gaze longingly into His eyes, to love Him with all our heart and soul.

What about you? Do you have this kind of love relationship with Christ? Do you experience the inexplicable joy of intimacy with the One who loves you with a passion far deeper, far greater than anything you could find here on earth? I know from experience that you can.

Ethridge, S. (2003). Every Woman’s Battle: Discovering God’s Plan for Sexual and Emotional Fulfillment. Colorado Springs, CO: Waterbrook Press.

Wedding Day

I’ve had this song in my head all afternoon, and felt I needed to share it with you all today.

Wedding Day

[Verse 1:]

There’s a stirring in the throne room

And all creation holds it’s breath

Waiting now to see the bride groom

Wondering how the bride will dress

And she wears white

And she knows that she’s undeserving

She bears the shame of history

But this worn and weary maiden

Is not the bride that he sees

And she wears white, head to toe

But only he could make it so


When someone dries your tears

When someone wins your heart

And says your beautiful

When you don’t know you are

And all you’ve longed to see

Is written on his face

When love has come and finally set you free

On that wedding day

On that wedding day

[Verse 2:]

She has danced in golden castles

And she has crawled through beggar’s dust

But today she stands before him

And she wears his righteousness

And she will be who he adores

This is what he made her for



When the hand that bears the only scars

And heaven touch her face

And the last tears she’ll ever cry

Are finally wiped away

And the clouds roll back as he takes her hand

And walks her through the gates

Forever we will reign


As you can read in the following verses, the Bible often refers to us as the bride of Christ.

    • I am overwhelmed with joy in the LORD my God! For he has dressed me with the clothing of salvation and draped me in a robe of righteousness. I am like a bridegroom in his wedding suit or a bride with her jewels. (Isaiah 61:10)
    • Never again will you be called “The Forsaken City” or “The Desolate Land.” Your new name will be “The City of God’s Delight” and “The Bride of God,” for the LORD delights in you and will claim you as his bride. Your children will commit themselves to you, O Jerusalem, just as a young man commits himself to his bride. Then God will rejoice over you as a bridegroom rejoices over his bride. (Isaiah 62:4-5)
    • It is the bridegroom who marries the bride, and the best man is simply glad to stand with him and hear his vows. Therefore, I am filled with joy at his success. (John 3:29)
    • For I am jealous for you with the jealousy of God himself. I promised you as a pure bride to one husband—Christ. (2 Corinthians 11:2)
    • Let us be glad and rejoice, and let us give honor to him. For the time has come for the wedding feast of the Lamb, and his bride has prepared herself. (Revelations 19:7)

I love this song, because it really does a great job at expressing our relationship to God. It describes how we’re so dirty and undeserving, but how He covers all that up with His righteousness. It describes how we’re worn and weary and yet we’re beautiful in His sight. And it describes how we’re able to wear white–meaning we’re clean & spotless–because His blood makes it so. He created us with a purpose and desires intimacy with us!  And this song depicts His love for us in such vivid terms that it can’t help but show my own love and adoration in return. Thank You, Lord!!